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I know the obvious is to tell them so you can count on them for support but what if you’re strong enough to deal with it on your own and they’re not?
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I think they would probably want to know, and would feel bad you felt you had to deal with it alone. Maybe they’ll be stronger than you think.
You may not only need emotional support, it might be that you need driving to and from treatments or help with shopping if you are feeling tired and weak from treatments. Your family and friends would love to feel that they can help you in someways.
If they are close to you they would probably realise something was wrong, and worry about you just as much without knowing why.
Still it is a difficult decision, as its your health and it is personal to you. Perhaps when you feel the time is right you could share it with them.
I really don't know how I would feel in this situation.
Hope all goes well for you
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If you say nothing to those close to you, is it a betrayal of trust. As a family, extended or otherwise, there must be sharing of the good and the bad. Looking after family is an honour and a responsibility. Each person gives something based on the skill and passion. Family is stong by trust that each person invests. Though things might be hard initially the love is like the force of an tornado, every one must be given the chance to be part of the love. Judging them as inadequate to deal with the difficulties, is still judgement and you don't have the right.
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DONT keep this to yourself let them know what you know ,this way they have the ability to help you more so by knowing how you feel and how they can help.Make sure that your diagnosis is correct and inform them each step of the way.No'one is a hero and help can come from the strangest places just when you need moral support.Don't go it alone.
Take care hope things work out for you.
With you asking this question from strangers you are already looking for help so let the family and friends help you get through this with you.
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i think it's ideal to tell family and friends. I did when i was diagnosed last year (already well in remission) but it was really tiring talking about it all the time. I asked my Mum and Dad to pass on the information to loved ones because after a few days i was so exhausted of answering questions! If it had have been too much for them after a while passing on the info i would have asked my brothers to help out. The phone calls were endless which was very comforting, but tiring for the family.
If you’re worried that they may not be strong enough to deal with it the ideal thing to do is talk openly - let them know you’re willing to accept and fight it and they need to support you in that. Sounds cliche but honesty is the way to go
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I think you would have to tell them, especially when you start getting sick. I don't think relying on your friends and family shows a sign of weakness of any kind. It's not about being “strong enough” but about allowing other people to help you through an unimaginable time. Not to mention, it helps other people deal with the reality of losing you.
My mom had leukemia (undiagnosed). She was being treated for a kidney disease. But it got progressively worse and yes, I wish I had known she was dying… there was so much left unsaid.
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yes i know its a lot on your shoulders but my friends mom was diagnosed a year or 2 ago and even though its hard on the family i feel like they’ve a right sort of …..and it also helps to have a support team which a family should be ideal at including friends
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I did not get the chance to tell my family as my physician told them. I was in shock from the diagnosis and also very sick.I would have told them if I hadn’t been in such a serious condition. I’ve already told them if the leukemia comes back I’ll not have chemo. I just can't go through the chemo and dying like I did before. Unless I have the 90% chance of going into remission again.
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I would tell them!!! I had a false diagnoses a few years ago. It took us 9mths to find out what was really wrong. How ever those 9mths were the hardest of my life and with out my family and friends by my side it would of been harder.You never know how your family is going to deal with the news you might not think they are strong enough but then again they might surprise you. My heart goes out to all those out there that weren't as lucky as i was and are fighting this horrible disease.
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Depends on what type, how long I've had it and what the prognosis was. Had a situation a few years ago where I had to consider this one. I normally operate on a “need to know” basis on health issues.
Even though it does not run in the family my mother and father both had different kinds. One, they never figured out. The other, could have been cured with early detection. Both of them were stubborn about health care. I’m the opposite.
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I was diagnosed with cancer last year and I did tell my family and friends. Whether you are strong enough to deal with it on your own, they should still know what’s going on with you.
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Throughout the thick and the thin, your family are there for you 24-7. I wouldn't carry something as big as that on MY shoulders, I would definitely need support to get through something like that!
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you should still tell them.
put your self in there situation - how would you feel if someone close to you got cancer and didn’t tell you!!! just tell them as best you can.
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I would still tell them. They have the right to know because they're my family. >> What loss would you have if you tell them??
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yes so maybe then it could be cured.
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still i think its ideal that u let them know they have that right to know whats going on with you!