Feb
I left my boyfriend cause I have cancer..?
and now i'm starting to regret it. He's known about it for years, and has looked past it, but now that it's reached stage four, I just am afraid I'll die on him..I really don't want to hurt him. He's the sweetest guy I ever met, and he treats me so well, always has, even before the cancer.
But now I feel like I made a mistake of getting rid of him..he's always been there for me. I'm just afraid of hurting him. Did I do the right thing?
We chased after another for seven whole years. I moved far away when I was 10. At age tweleve he confessed he loved me, and from there we were in this long distance love battle..he came and moved in with me last month…and has just asked me to marry him last week..and now that I heard from my physicians that it wouldn't be wise for me to continue treatment, I just got rid of him.
What have I done? Was it right? He seemed pretty upset…he was very accepting with all this as well..I just don't know what to do, if anyone could possibly help me out here, I'd feel a lot better.
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Hi Lin, I am sorry to hear you took such drastic step in getting rid off your boyfriend who seemed to really care about you, but it is understandable you’re afraid and have each reason to be. My advice is to even though it is hard, try to concentrate on living you are still here and where there is life there’s hope, no body knows what will happen “THE FUTURE HAS NOT BEEN PROMISED TO ANY OF US” live life in the present TODAY right this moment is what’s real nothing else exists, don't consider dying we are all in the same boat, you just happened to have a condition that appears to be a threat, I comprehend it is hard to see this because of all the fear that has been pounded onto us by the medical profession about cancer, but understand it is just a “word” you can select to live and the will to live that you have is enough for it to become a reality and for your body to heal, your body has the power to do so, it has intelligence, it has come into this world with all the necessary tools to heal itself and fix what ever isn’t working well, please believe this because it is true, I have seen people close to me recover after having been given little time to live but they selected to believe otherwise and they’re still here happy and healthy, search for books or stories of hundreds of cancer survivors who selected to live. Research therapies like The Gerson therapy it has more than 90% success rate in cures it is gentle and effective, I don't know where you live but here in australia we have Ian Gawler in Melbourne who has workshops to instruct you how to survive he is fantastic having survived cancer himself over 30 years ago. Anyway I think I have said too much already. If your boyfriend wants to be with you because he cares about and cares about you, let it be his decision dont push him away, respect his wish to be with you no matter what. Read the book called the power of now you can find it in any library it is fantastic. Here follow this links to gerson's therapies and videos.
http://www.gerson.org/
http://www.blip.tv/file/418250
Power to you!!!!!
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It probably hurt him more to be pushed from your life than it would if you died. I advocate you call him, now, tell him you weren't think logically, and if he is willing, take him back into your life. The two of you deserve some life together, so go for it. Best of luck to both of you.
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Your story is very sad, I cant imagine how you go tru all of this…
For your (ex?) boyfriend, I strongly recommend you guys go back together because not only he is your boyfriend, hes your FRIEND 1st. He’ll be there for you and support you in these rough times. You’ll need this support from him to be able to heal.
Good luck to you and I will keep you in my prayers. xox
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i call bull
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It's understandable that you would be experiencing complicated emotions during such a difficult time. I would get a suggestion for a good grief counselor who can be a sounding board and talk you through this way more thoroughly than random strangers on the web could.
I'm really confused by what you wrote about your leukemia now reaching stage four. In my experience, you're staged at the time you're diagnosed, and your condition can improve or worsen, but you aren't re-staged. It's odd that your doctors would just tell you that it's unwise to continue treatment since I'm assuming you're still young given the time line in the question.
You really need to seek professional guidance for all of this.
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I added you because I thought you were someone around my age with cancer, and I know how much that sucks, and after taking a peak at your other questions I'm confused. Last week the huge issue with the relationship was that you're short and he's tall, and you made no mention of cancer. Last month you said you were 17 and pregnant and once again didn't mention cancer. And then there are the questions you asked about peeing in his face when he fingered you…….
Do you really have cancer or do you just want attention?